Back to the Basics: The Simplicity of His Love
“…because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.” Romans 5:5
We all know that our most basic and profound need is love and to be loved right?! “Yep, that is right,” you say. Yet, if I asked you these basic questions what would your response to be?:
- How do you receive love best from the Lord?
- What does the Lord love and like about you?
Believe it or not most people are stumped by these questions or, if they do have an answer they might only be able to get out a word or two. It is seldom met with an overflow of intimate knowledge of what God has spoken to them. If you fall into either of these categories here are a few things you might want to consider doing:
1. Know your love languages with God!
Do you know what makes you feel loved by the Father? How do you gauge if your basic needs are being met with the Lord? I remember when I felt lead by the Holy Spirit to work through the book, The Love Languages with God by Gary Chapman. I slightly baulked at the idea because I told the Lord I didn’t want to “focus” on my love languages with my spouse, that I didn’t have (the book is a common theme in premarital counseling, rightfully so). I was, however, quick to realize that I was using the book that focuses on my relationship with God, not the person-to-person relational book. That realization sparked an excitement in me because I knew that what God was about to teach me would transform my relationship with Him and, therefore other people. I was about to understand how I received love from the Father FIRST, before I applied it to people. What happened was amazing! While quality time and physical touch ranked at the top for me I also understood that I needed words of affirmation, gifts, and acts of service in my relationship with Him (in case you didn’t know, there are five love languages and I recognized that I needed them all in differing degrees). I have since found that if I don’t spend time with Him I fall apart and move out of revelation of His love for me. I find that if I don’t feel God’s touch on my life then my love tanks are depleted and drained. You get the idea! What would happen if you knew what your love languages looked like in regards to your relationship with the Lord? How much less would we be trying to fill the void through other people?! Don’t misunderstand me…we are meant for relationships with each other. The Lord does desire to meet our needs through people with skin on, as I like to say, but our deepest and most revelatory moments will come when we learn how to hear God’s love for us in relationship with Him first and foremost. This, in turn allows us to have even more effective relationships with others. You can say that we become better lovers. So, I would challenge you to learn your love languages with God. Once you do you will not want to go a day without connecting with Him on that level. It drew me much closer to Him as I believe it will do for you.
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2. Set aside an hour with the Lord and ask these questions: Lord what do you love about me? What do you like about me?
It is still amazing to me how many of us go our entire Christian life being able to say, “Yes, God loves me. After all, doesn’t the Bible say, ‘For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten son…’ (John 3:16)?” Yet, it’s solely head knowledge; knowledge that has not yet moved from our head to our hearts and therefore has not become an outward expression of who we are. Perhaps you know that God loves you, but you don’t yet know precisely what it is that He does love about you or like about you. Can you imagine what your life would be like if you first knew what God Himself loves AND likes about you? What if you knew all the intricate details of what He likes about your personality, your gifts, your looks, talents, how you relate to others….the list goes on! What if, when those you love compliment and affirm you, they are echos of what God told you first?!! Talk about true confidence!! Picture this, you walk into a room full of people after having spent time with the Lord, allowing Him to whisper His intimate words of love to your heart. Details about you that few would know. You feel extraordinarily special, not because of what anyone else has said, but because you heard it from the Spirit of Truth Himself. You don’t need anyone else’s words in that moment. You are already full, yet He still sends a person to you, a friend perhaps, that compliments one of the very areas that He has just spoken to in your life. It is a gentle reminder of the quiet confidence that already resided in you. Folks, there is nothing like that type of confidence. It is not reserved for a few; it is for all of us.
So, grab your journal and a pen and sit with the Lord for an hour with no phone or any other distraction. Ask the Lord to tell you what He loves about you. Then ask Him to tell you what he likes about you. This is an exercise that I regularly have my classes do and it is one that I practice in my own life. It never gets old and it always produces fruit. There is something deep that happens when we allow the Holy Spirit to speak to our spirits about the truth of who we are. The lies of the enemy are much more easily squelched when we know the truth of who God says we are. How would your life change if you knew what God both loved and liked about you? Would you be more confident in your day-to-day life? Would your relationships with others change? Why?
3. Personalize scripture
I will keep this one extra simple! Below are some verses that you can print. Sit and say them out loud. Speak them over yourself and even make it personal by inserting your name. You’ll be amazed at what happens! Regurgitating truth is one thing, but making it personal to you is an entirely different thing. Let the truth of God’s word becoming living and active in your own soul.
“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.” Jeremiah 29:11
“For you formed my inward parts; you covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvelous are your works, and that my soul knows very well.” Psalm 139:13-14
“Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore with loving kindness I have drawn you.” Jeremiah 31:3
“But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:8
Well, that’s it! I’m on the journey to love others radically well, but I know that it will take deeper revelations of God’s love for me first. So, join me in going back to the basics! Take the time to know how you relate in relationship with Him with your love languages. Know what He loves and likes about you and by all means speak the word of God over yourself! Remember, we can’t give what we don’t have and often times the simple place with God is typically the most transformational place in Him. Go on this journey with him and let the Lord meet you with your most basic need: His love.